Everyone likes to have a romantic story to share when asked – ‘how did you meet your sweetheart.’ Especially if it’s an incredible story in which the likelihood of the two people meeting at the certain time and place was an absolute zero. The reason we all want this is obvious. Bumping into your soulmate when you least expect it, must be destiny. And when destiny knocks on our door and brigs love we know that the one we met is our other half.
However, the fact that, according to statistics, one in four marriages worldwide, and whooping 42% of marriages in the UK end in divorce, clearly indicates that this destiny (I really want to say BS) doesn’t work. With the risk of sounding like a real cynic, who’s been single for quite a long time, I also must add that it makes me feel sick when people refer to their partners as their other half. Why anyone would see themselves as a half, escapes me.
So, if a romantic, accidental bumping into that important one doesn’t guarantee lasting relationship, is online dating a place where we can find love?
And my answer is simply, no.
Ok, I’m not saying this as a bitter, experienced ‘online dater’ who spent years trying to find love. My online dating profile only lasted for twenty days, but that was enough for me to realise that after failing to find love in my first and second marriage, an online dating site was yet another wrong place to look at.
By all means, if you have the time and will to chat with hundreds of people and go on numerous dates, you might find online dating interesting and fun.
But if the true love is what you want? Well, the answer to that questions is at the same time difficult and easy.
The only place where we can and will find love is within us.
You see, majority of people say something along the lines –
I want someone to love me. I want someone to understand me. I want someone to want me. I want someone to be there for me. I want someone to accept me the way I am.
But at the same time the question is, do you love yourself? Do you understand yourself? Do you want yourself? Are you there for yourself? Do you accept yourself the way you are?
If you want love, be love.
Love is understanding. Give understanding.
Love is honesty. Be honest.
Love is commitment. Be committed.
Stop looking for love in all the wrong places. Give love and love will find you.
And yes, love can find you online as well. Love is everywhere.