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Why I Don’t Recommend Motivation

  • Silvana
  • May 6, 2021

There are many things that we desire in life. Different job, bigger house, new car, good relationships, more holidays, you name it. Why do we want these things? Well, we rarely stop to ask ourselves this question. But if we would stop and ask, we would then realise that we want them because we believe that if we had them, we would feel better.

Now, from an early age we learn that if we want something we must work for it, right? We’ve all heard too many times ‘things don’t fall into your lap’. So we know that the answer to getting what we want is action. And sometimes we are happy to take that action. But there are also times, when we don’t feel like doing what we believe we must do, if we can hope to get what we want. And that’s when motivation comes in.

There are many ways to motivate yourself to take action. Read motivational books, listen to relatable stories, take a walk, exercise or simply remind yourself of dreadful consequences that you will face, should you fail to take action.

First of all I want to make it clear that I have absolutely nothing against motivation. But I do want to express my firm stance against taking action that doesn’t feel right. You know, when you don’t feel like doing something, but you are using every single tool you can think of to motivate yourself to do it, because you are afraid that you will never get what you want if you fail to take action?!

If you don’t feel it, don’t do it. And here is why.

Let me start by repeating what I already said. Everything we want, we want it for one reason, and one reason only. We believe that in having that we would feel better. Period. We can argue and say that this isn’t true and we can also come up with many reasons why it isn’t true. But that won’t change the fact that we do want to feel good in our lives. And that brings me to the point that I’m trying to make.

It’s good… No, it’s great to have a goal in life. Something that we really, really want. Something that we strive for. Something that we are passionate about. Something that gives meaning to our life. The purpose.

But if we want to be truly happy and satisfied we must become aware that we only exist in one moment in time. And that moment is always, always, always here and now. But very often, when we want something badly, we end up pushing and trying very hard. We keep motivating ourselves to take action that doesn’t feel good, we do things that we don’t enjoy doing, because we believe that once we achieve our goals we will finally be happy.

And we miss our moment.

Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans – John Lennon

So, I don’t recommend motivation.

What I do recommend is relaxation. Give yourself permission to relax. Spend more time doing what you love doing. If you don’t feel like doing much, do as little as you can. Be present and care about how you feel. Make your feelings your priority. Your feelings are your guide. When you care about how you feel, your feelings will take you exactly where you want to go. Get in tune with who you really are and trust me, life will surprise and delight you in so many ways.

Ideas will come, inspiration will come, opportunities will present themselves. You won’t need to motivate yourself. You will be inspired and taking action will bring joy and satisfaction.

And once you learn to ride that wave and take inspired action, everything that you really want will start falling into your lap.

If you want to create a life that feels good and step into success check my new online course here  Create Feel Good Life – Step Into Success

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Online Dating – Will I Find Love?

  • Silvana
  • October 7, 2020

So, if a romantic, accidental bumping into that important one doesn’t guarantee lasting relationship, is online dating a place where we can find love?

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The Most Important Ingredient Of Public Speaking

  • Silvana
  • May 4, 2020

So, like with anything else in life, there is a recipe to becoming a successful public speaker and anyone who is willing to apply the recipe, can and will achieve outstanding results. Still, it seems that only a few really mange to stand out and write their name I a book of greatness.

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Learn From My Mistakes

  • Silvana
  • April 18, 2020

And right there, in the middle of my worst ever financial crisis, that felt like I finally hit the rock bottom, all of the sudden I knew exactly what I needed to do.

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The Three Words That Can Transform Your Life

  • Silvana
  • April 12, 2020

But then we say – ‘How am I supposed to stop worrying when there are so many things that are currently challenging in my life. I am in debt, I have no idea where the next paycheck is coming from plus I seem to be gaining weight even though I hardly eat anything?’

Ok, I get you. Let’s analyse the three words.

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Mental Hygiene – Decluttering

  • Silvana
  • April 11, 2020

Your mind is your most important asset. It’s powerful and capable of giving you everything, yes absolutely everything that you desire. But that is only possible if you learn to be the master of your mind and not allow your cluttered mind to be the master of you. And here is how you do that.

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Let’s Talk About Money

  • Silvana
  • March 6, 2020

You don’t have to struggle. You can wake up every morning excited about a new day, knowing that you are free to do whatever makes you feel happy and fulfilled.

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What It Is That You Really Want?

  • Silvana
  • September 29, 2019

When you realise that all the answers you’ve been looking for are within you and there is NO competition. You are at home, you are safe and you can finally see that the doors to your success are WIDE OPEN.

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Say Goodbye To Toxic People – Protect Your Happiness

  • Silvana
  • May 29, 2018

Being in an emotionally abusive relationship is a very lonely place. Sometimes life indeed hits us in the head with a brick, but we must carry on. Unfortunately, there is no law that protects us from being manipulated and lied to, just as we can’t go to the police and report our spouse for being an alleged ‘psychopath’. I am saying alleged because, regardless of what we’ve been through and whether reading about psychopaths or narcissists reminds us on someone we know, most of us are not qualified to diagnose someone with a mental disorder.

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Do This And Never Run Out Of Time Again

  • Silvana
  • March 3, 2018

Time management is one of the most discussed topics nowadays. Majority of us is caught up in this crazy race, we insist on calling life, while trying to catch a breath between morning anxiety, midday stress and bedtime worries, constantly feeling that 24 hours in a day is not enough.

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